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Recently I wrote about focusing on one thing at a time, one task, one project, etc. and bringing simplicity into your life. That way of being is a great way to be at peace, resulting in joy and satisfaction with life.

As I have been reframing my work, seeing clients and patients on Tuesdays, Wednesdays, and Thursday, and using Mondays and Fridays to work ON my business rather than IN it, I am realizing that I am working three 11-12-hour days. Theoretically, it was a great move, in practice however – not so good a move.

Yet as with every decision we make, there is ALWAYS so much we can learn. In reviewing my days, I realized I am involved in too many networking groups, I am doing too many meet & greets with folks who are pleasant acquaintances but who really are not at all people I can serve.

What I have said so many times, and know, yet can forget, is that when focusing on one goal in life or in my business, it becomes clear what fits into supporting that goal and what is interesting yet simply a distraction. I used to love learning new healing techniques, reading new books on reincarnation or past life experiences, and keeping up with the latest political thoughts about equality and the reality that we are all in this one big world together.

Those things still interest me, but I am far more aware that on a personal level my one major focus is on my physical health. On a professional level, my one focus needs to be on increasing my ability to reach those in transition so I can support them in seeing it as an exciting time of self-realization and jumping into life in a new way with a new sense of self rather than as a scary time of loss. Everything else that gets in the way of that now needs to be released or explored on the weekend. Lots of cleaning out to do….

What is it that you value most at this point in your life?  What is the one thing that gives you purpose, personally and professionally? What is it that you need to be focused on? What distractions are you allowing in that keep you stuck? Frustrated? Overwhelmed? Feeling pulled in too many directions?

One thing at a time is great advice. Having one major focus is a deeper look at that idea. It becomes so much easier to see what distractions are getting in our way. A girlfriend talks about her problem with “shiny object syndrome” meaning there is always something new to pull her over here, over there, back over here, in a third direction, and so on.  She’s exhausted at the end of the day yet feels that she accomplished nothing and more importantly, she feels she wasted an entire day yet again. She really hadn’t fully enjoyed any of the distractions and didn’t like herself much. She felt that she betrayed herself.

If you were to focus and reorganize your life today, what changes would you make? Any?  What behavior patterns would you change? What beliefs would you shift? What goal or dream do you have? Are you willing to focus so you can achieve it?  I wish that for you. That investment in your dreams makes this journey so much more fun. If you need to reassess, go for it! If not, congratulations!


Dr. Dorothy’s life story of coming from an orphanage, being raised in the housing projects of South Boston, becoming a Catholic nun, an international airline stewardess, a wife, mother, graduate faculty member, Clinical Instructor at a Medical School, and so much more provides the perfect backdrop for her message of joy, humor, passion and faith as the necessary tools for life.