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I took the day last Saturday to do nothing but “be.” I watered my plants, stripped the bed, did laundry, etc.  All the things that allow me to feel as if I am fixing up my little nest while letting go of the rest of the world. For you it may be reading a paper, working in a greenhouse, a garage, whatever. It is about having that ability to not be obligated to attend to anything that causes you to have to be “on.” It is a gift beyond words.

This morning, I was remembering just that when I was speaking to a client about falling in love with himself. It’s a concept he heard me mention before but simply discounted since he had no clue. I mentioned my moments from above, saying that when you fall in love with yourself you have permission to do what feeds your soul. You have permission to love the development you have achieved that allows you to stop and simply value the life and the self you have created. 

Please, take the time to look over your life from 6 or whatever age you can remember back to.

You will begin to see all the choices that you have made that have brought you to this point. All the choices that have taught you strength, that allow you to look back and see resilience, stubbornness, inflexibility, compassion, vibrancy, audacity, and fear. 

You can see the choices you have made and how you dealt with them. Perhaps you can laugh at some of the choices that were made foolishly, to prove a point, to show off, to rebel, etc. You will see choices you made without any idea of where they were going to lead you. Choices that took you far away from situations that could have caused a more difficult journey for you. Choices that exposed you to possibilities you never could have imagined. 

Taking the time to realize all the choices you have made, some consciously some unconsciously, you begin to see the person you have chosen to become, one small step at a time. You can judge yourself for these decisions or you can step back and see that each of them combined to create this man or woman you are today. One you can love and appreciate. Not perfect, not “done” yet wonderfully human and wonderfully you. 

Fall in love with the person who has walked that walk.

Who chose to risk, to love, to reach out, and to keep becoming even if in resistance, fear, or unknowing. Now you can know. Now you can see the result of all those choices. Walking forward there can be far greater certainty of the value and outcome you can create. There can be far more awareness that this person has loved as much as they were able at the moment. This person is innately good and holy even if some choices were not of the highest level. Learning entails a lot of not-knowing, a lot of unsure steps, and even a few falls. 

There is so much more to learn and become. It will happen in time so stopping to see, to value, and to appreciate what is here now and how far you have come is a really healthy move. It allows the appreciation, and the contentment of knowing you are who you have chosen to become even with so much potential to become so much more…


Dr. Dorothy’s life story of coming from an orphanage, being raised in the housing projects of South Boston, becoming a Catholic nun, an international airline stewardess, a wife, mother, graduate faculty member, Clinical Instructor at a Medical School, and so much more provides the perfect backdrop for her message of joy, humor, passion and faith as the necessary tools for life.