Have you ever had one of those days where “WHY” seems to be your most basic question? 

WHY am I in this profession? WHY is it so hard? So boring? So endless? So redundant? I would say if you are human, you have had that day at least once, if not much more….

When we spend time looking at our greatest gifts, our greatest passion, at what feeds our soul, we realize that to be full we really can’t do anything else and still feel that way. Whatever our gifts, and they do come naturally, we are instantaneously good at it. We can certainly get better, more refined in approach perhaps, or execution, but the trait? That spontaneous ability or calling? It’s a given… Making it a profession is the choice.

Since I was a child, I wanted to teach the young mothers on the stoop of our housing project building that they didn’t have to be beaten every night. They didn’t have to give up their hopes and dreams and then merely survive the rest of their lives. I had no words they would listen to; they thought I was too innocent to understand and realize this was simply life. As a result, I went on to learn how to speak that message so others could hear me. As a speaker, psychotherapist, and coach, I still call others to see other options in living life, in running their business, in viewing their journey, basically, to get unstuck and find their wildest dream and/or possibility.

What causes your WHY?

Where did it begin? If you have, how did you come to choose it as a way of life? It is your way of being fed whether as a profession or an avocation. 

Do you know what you need to feel fed each day? Creating organization? Educating a child? Getting an “AH HA” from a client? Letting go of another illusion that had you stumped? For each of us, it is something different. No one “WHY” is more important than another; they are a reflection of who we are and consequently of immense value. As I see it, they are the secret key to discovering the real you.

The days in which we question it, seem to me to be the days when the work of living our why has expanded and called us to grow, to change, or to reassess our approach. It is that kick in the butt to get out of complacency and expand, grow, and become and do more. Those days……….

Yup, we are never done, we are never “there.” We are simply jumping different hurdles, developing stronger, more insightful muscles, and becoming so much more of who we are.

That “WHY” of ours is a calling that needs to be heard, to be listened to, and to evolve. Our stages of life change how we live it, how we get fed by it, and how we share it. 

Know your WHY.

It’s not a concept, it’s a way of being, an approach to life, and a motivator that calls you to truly live, never survive, your relationships and your endless journey of becoming…..


About Dorothy

Dr. Dorothy’s life story of coming from an orphanage, being raised in the housing projects of South Boston, becoming a Catholic nun, an international airline stewardess, a wife, mother, graduate faculty member, Clinical Instructor at a Medical School, and so much more provides the perfect backdrop for her message of joy, humor, passion and faith as the necessary tools for life.