Have you ever undertaken a project where, after reading all the fine print you were certain you understood what was expected and what would be provided? I’m currently completing a project that has called me to look at myself and how I deal or don’t deal with confusion and disappointment, and nonetheless, appreciation.

After receiving a few rave reviews about a company, I followed up with a conversation with one of their professional salesmen and signed up for a pretty high-price ticket item.

Once in the program I realized that what they meant by their tech team doing things for you, actually meant putting a few pieces in place while you did all the rest. Because I know little to nothing about all the tech variables and terms, when I discovered that a majority of the work was expected to be done by me, I could have easily panicked, and I did. Then I got angry. Then I did victim and blame and name calling. All this lasted about 30 minutes until I calmed down and looked again.

Yes, there was a misunderstanding. Yes, many people may probably have had the same misunderstanding, as well. Yes, they should change their presentation, to be perfectly, totally clear and transparent. However, all that is in the future. For today, I needed to assess, how was I going to deal with this? Ranting and raving solves nothing. Playing victim and defeated solves nothing. Going into self-hatred solves nothing. By stopping and realizing I needed help, it was clear they would be the best to support me, so I asked for help – and – received it.

What do you do when you believe someone has misrepresented something? Where do you go? What mindset or energy do you fall into? What I discovered was that they are extremely supportive when there are difficulties. They are more than willing to give extra time, answer any question, etc. It didn’t change the initial issue, but it did help resolve it.

When you have differences do you look for resolutions or do you look to win? Do you need to be the victim and someone else the bad guy? Do you go to powerless, if not hopeless? How long do you stay there? I believe completely that we need to honor what we feel, we need to go through it. However, if that doesn’t bring us to our highest self, to the person we want to be, then it is important to experience it all and then move on.

We create our view of the world.  Right now, there is far too much of a push to “us” and “them” to the “ignorant, evil enemy.” That energy solves nothing. It conditions us to see victimization and “bad guys” everywhere. Take the time, whatever the situation, to see that some misunderstandings can be resolved if only we talk about them with the source, and others we simply need to release.

We truly do create our own reality, the world we want to live in, and the attitude or approach we want to lead us through our lives. Pick wisely, your joy, your inner peace, and your laughter depends on it.


About Dorothy

Dr. Dorothy’s life story of coming from an orphanage, being raised in the housing projects of South Boston, becoming a Catholic nun, an international airline stewardess, a wife, mother, graduate faculty member, Clinical Instructor at a Medical School, and so much more provides the perfect backdrop for her message of joy, humor, passion and faith as the necessary tools for life.