I was reminded yet again this morning that as much as I try to do everything on my own, there is such a gift in realizing that we do not need to carry the whole world, or at least a heavy project, on our shoulders all alone.

In complete vulnerability, a woman I love dearly asked me if I would create a program for women in transition since she is very much in that place and needs help going through it. Because I have been an “amazing support and mentor” for her over the years she turned to me.

Trying to push this event, talking to an accountability partner, and then being creative on my own was putting immense pressure on me to understand why it wasn’t moving forward fast enough.

This morning we were talking and she said: “let’s see how we bring this to fruition together. I’m going for a walk and I’ll see what I can come up with.” What??? Someone who asked for my help wants to help me make it happen? The weight that dropped off my shoulders when that registered was amazing. We can do this together… How frequently do you try to do it all alone? I even know better and yet my humanity jumps in when I least notice it.

How frequently do you not ask for others’ advice because you need to figure it out yourself?”  There are moments, when we are vulnerable or in fear, when others may be able to see us or our dreams far more clearly than we do. It may be time to make a move, a change in some aspect of our lives, and the pace we are going at doesn’t serve us, yet it feels logical to do it our way. To put it bluntly, that “logic” isn’t always logical – if I may say so….

There is such a fine line between independence and eagerly accepting support. The trick is asking for it before our shoulders are around our ears. Another truth, & little miracle as I see it, and I was just reminded of, just showed up!  Another woman whom I have never met yet who this first woman knows just called, interrupting my writing, and said that she is absolutely wanting to take this program and she has a number of friends she wants to invite as well.

Have you ever noticed that when you finally open up to something, that miracles start happening? You finally decide you are ready to change jobs and VOILA you hear of two openings you never would have noticed if you hadn’t opened up to the present moment.

You want to take a particular type of program and VOILA, you get an email or phone call or someone mentions just that program?  

Opening up to unlimited possibilities allows us to see them all around us. Have you noticed that once you buy a type of car all of sudden you see them everywhere?  You find this out-of-way restaurant and all of a sudden everyone seems to know about it?  Life is like that.  You notice what you are open to. Notice the miracles, ask for support when needed, and get ready to receive all the goodness and miracles that are yours in making this journey so much more.


About Dorothy

Dr. Dorothy’s life story of coming from an orphanage, being raised in the housing projects of South Boston, becoming a Catholic nun, an international airline stewardess, a wife, mother, graduate faculty member, Clinical Instructor at a Medical School, and so much more provides the perfect backdrop for her message of joy, humor, passion and faith as the necessary tools for life.